What a Bunch of.... Malarkey!
Tuesday, July 20, 2010 Comments (0)
I recently have had three friends become brand new moms. As we went through the 9 months of chatting about what Motherhood would be like I couldn't help but be overly blunt at times. You see when I was expecting for the first time there were many moms who told me how amazing a new baby was and to cherish that time b/c it would pass quickly. What a bunch of malarkey!
I still remember those first three weeks of pure hell . I have never been so tired in my life. Does anyone else remember the triple size maxi pad that you had to wear? Or how about the cracking nipples? Never in my life did I imagine that I would have to lube up my nipples to prepare for an onslaught of sucking pain. And then of course all that to include healing from the emergency c-section in-between the seemingly never-ending feedings of my crying baby. Doesn’t that sound like fun?
What happened to the beautiful little baby movie that played in my mind prior to birth? Baby and me would go for wonderful long walks enjoy the peacefulness of the day. After that we would snuggle together and then I would listen to her beautiful cooing noises. In the morning she would play in her crib and wait, ever so patiently for her morning feed! Yah right!
At times I couldn't figure out if she needed to eat, sleep or be changed. Then there was the gas issue. What's up with that? Our girl spent more time getting burped than I had ever expected. I think we went through one bottle of gripe water every week. Not that she needed it, we just didn’t know what the hec we were doing.
I also wish someone would have told me about the down under explosions that would ruin a perfectly new outfit. That crap really stains. I think we even had a couple outfits just get tossed out without even trying to wash them.
I remember how badly I couldn’t wait to get out for a nice evening alone with my hubby but it was often postponed momentarily while I went to change out of the brand new fancy shirt that my lovely little girl just upchucked on…yes, it was sooo fun!
My point is this, motherhood is incredibly difficult. At least it was for me. Now that my girls are 5 and 8 I can look back and truly be thankful for the fact that I am out of those years. And of course I loved my girls when they were babies! I’d have done anything for them. But to be honest, I really didn’t enjoy those years. It took awhile for me to be ok with these feelings since it seemed at the time that no one else felt the same way I did. But after talking with more moms from my generation I have realized that many of them felt the same way (and also felt guilty for having those feelings). Which I guess is why I am writing this blog. Because if you are a new mom and you are thinking this was supposed to be different you are normal like so many of us.
And rest assured it does get better, at least till they are 5 and 8. Once teen-age life sets in I’ll let you know if all hell breaks lose again!
Have a happy day!
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